Spirituality...

Many people from the 'west' come to India seeking 'spirituality.'

My discoveries along the spiritual path has also been interesting. As always, the values are easy to grasp but very challenging to make them an integral part of one's day to day life. My sincere attempts to do so has SO FAR brought me to a stage where I do not think I can successfully implement each one of them every time because the larger society, norms and templates of right/wrong, good/bad are all wired differently - most often conflicting.

Ironically, a few days ago, I realized that it seems to be relatively easier FOR ME to implement these values in an 'alien' and 'western' country that I live in right now. Strange eh?

• Accept people as they are: It's fascinating that India is such a diverse country but I do not believe there is a national identity to it. In my opinion its also a very divided country. Being married into a totally different internal culture shocked me more of our differences, prejudices than my first experience of being out of my country. These divisions are used and deepened by people with vested interests - so much that the country spends more time discussing differences than similarities and how to bond.

• In contrary, in Germany, my work place has hundreds of different nationalities working together. I have colleagues and friends from different countries and religions. I like them all and there are stronger bonds I feel (despite our differences) than I feel towards some of my fellow Indians.

• Its sadly only a few very special friends back home with who I feel bonded - interestingly, only few are of a similar background as me :)

• Saying "try" causes stress: In India, 'try' is the operating word because it sounds polite. In Germany it's highly appreciated to be honest and give a clear 'yes/no' when its possible.

• Don't be a football to other's opinion: In India, you have to be ready to be labelled as a rebel and many other things to follow this approach. "What will people say/think" is what drives very many decisions.

• In Germany, 'its okay to have one's personal perspective and take a stand.'

"You think more money, bigger house, bigger car is success? Without knowing what success is, everyone wants to be successful," Sri Sri Ravishanker.

I personally never considered this to be the definition of success for me. But many of my friends in India do define this as success.
On contrary, I know people and some of my friends in Germany are the ones who do not. E.g. some do not have a television at home - not because they cannot afford it. But because they choose not to have it. Their success is not defined by the large TV in the living room. Many choose to work less - thereby earn less salary to pursue a hobby that they are passionate about.

Ironically many people like me are termed 'westernized' by my fellow Indians. But looks like some of the westerners are closer (at least at face value) to the spiritual values that are preached in the Spiritual Land of India...

Interesting inter-connections...

Aspirations

Many Indian politicians promise to make Indian cities like, Singapore/Toronto/Shanghai…the inspirations are many. Usually broken promises. Majority of the Indian population always expect the government to bring about this transformation. For political parties its an agenda item. But for resident citizens it's a day to day lifestyle issue and often their role and participation is often not spoken about enough.

Indians made the choice in the last elections – towards ‘development’ –aspiring to lead the lifestyle of the ‘developed’ world. I observe that people often do not realize that behind the comfort and luxuries of the lifestyle of the developed world lie lots of regulations, compliance, adherence trust and most importantly civic responsibilities – which in my view a lot of Indians are not willing to take on themselves. As it will be seen as “loss of freedom.” Example:

• -       In Germany, Sundays are ‘quiet days.’ People are expected to be considerate towards their neighbors and not do things that would disturb. (Indian’s perspective) “I can’t be loud in a common place in my apartment building because of the neighbors? I pay rent for living here. I will do what I want in my house.”
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• -       People refrain from throwing personal garbage (coffee cups, chips packets etc.) on the streets. There are bins provided. (Indian’s perspective) “It’s the job of the government to clean the streets and pick the garbage (I throw).”
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• -       Garbage is an important topic in Europe in varying degrees. There are colored boxes for different types of garbage, there are different collectors – some only available on appointment – this ensures the right type of waste is handled the right way and potentially recycled the right way. Thereby ensuring reduced damage to the natural resources – The result of which – clean air, exceptionally clean water are enjoyed by everyone. (Indian’s response) “Oh its such a hassle. You need to pay for garbage disposal?”
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• -       Safety regulations are also very important in Europe. Neglecting them could have impacts on insurance coverage etc. (Indian’s response) “Seat belts to sit at the backseat?” :-O – Oh. It’s too tight. I can’t move. What a pain.”
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• -       There are regulations on what style to follow for buildings in specific areas, including the types of plants that can be planted, the color of the roof, the color of the satellite dish etc. This is what results in the ‘uniform’ aesthetics that makes that perfect postcards pictures of quaint European towns admired by visitors. (Indian response) “I am paying for my house. I will build it the way I want.”  

Corruption at the governance level is definitely not to be excused or justified. However, in many instances there are clear guidelines, processes and guidelines. All it requires is patience, compliance and honesty. People in India seem to forget that in a democracy the only job of a citizen isn’t that of voting, it’s also being a responsible citizen. Indian citizens residing in India are often quick to point fingers at the likes of us non-resident Indians for not contributing to the success of the country. I’d like to ask, “How responsibly are you performing the duties of being a resident citizen?”