More often than not, the statement me defensive.
But not today.
Today I realized, among other things, there is definitely ONE aspect in which I am closer to being 'German' than 'Indian' - i.e. revealing information that I consider private - information that is nobody's business.
The Indian, the 'social,' 'class' and 'cultural' distinctions forced me to reveal information that I strongly believed was nobody's business - not even my immediate family members. I feel really SHITTY about it.
I realize and am aware that I cannot change the Indian society in some aspects.
But, I have learnt to respect some aspects of another culture. Yes, Germans draw very clear lines between what's private and public. Something not easily comprehendable for many. Since I have been exposed to it and have been dealing with it, I have grown to respect this trait.
Cultural diversity for me, is interesting precisely for this reason - to let diverse cultural traits influence you - you make the choice of what makes sense for you, adopt it into your own way of thinking, into your own life and belief.
To this trait in particular, here are somethings I promise to myself:
- I will put my judgement, perception, conscience before asking someone something if it is something I can / cannot ask. - Whether the information is really important for me. Can I live without that information?
- I will not 'IMPOSE' myself on anyone and DEMAND information that may not be something someone wants to share.
- If I do ask someone something, I will give them the choice to tell me, "I do not want to tell you," and I will accept it with all due respect.
I am willing to pay that price. I think I anyway give that impression to many :)
